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Selective mutism is an anxiety-related condition in which a person, most often a child, is unable to speak in certain social situations, such as at school, despite speaking freely at home or with close family. It's not a matter of choice or shyness, but a genuine anxiety response.
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Topic-specific prevention and risk reduction will be added during the article-specific evidence audit.
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A child is consistently unable to speak in specific settings like school, despite talking normally elsewhere
01 · Know
What is Selective mutism?
Selective mutism is an anxiety-related condition in which a person, most often a child, is unable to speak in certain social situations, such as at school, despite speaking freely at home or with close family. It's not a matter of choice or shyness, but a genuine anxiety response.
It usually becomes noticeable in early childhood, often when starting school or nursery, and can persist without support. Early recognition and the right approach can make a significant difference to a child's confidence and ability to communicate.
02 · Understand
Clinical context
Self-care advice
Speak to your GP, public health nurse, or your child's school if you notice signs of selective mutism, for advice on referral to specialist support.
03 · Act
When to see a doctor
- 1A child is consistently unable to speak in specific settings like school, despite talking normally elsewhere
- 2The pattern has lasted more than a month and isn't simply settling into a new environment
- 3Selective mutism is affecting a child's learning, friendships, or wellbeing
- 4You're not sure how to support a child who may have selective mutism
- 5You'd like a referral for a speech and language or psychological assessment
04 · Prevent & manage
Practical steps
Take these self-care steps
These measures can help ease symptoms, support recovery, and reduce the chance of things worsening — but they don't replace medical advice if symptoms are severe or persistent.
- 1Avoid pressuring the child to speak.Gentle patience works far better than pushing, which can increase anxiety and reinforce the difficulty.
- 2Build confidence gradually.Small, low-pressure steps, such as nodding or gesturing, can be encouraged before expecting full speech.
- 3Work closely with the school.A consistent, supportive approach between home and school helps the child feel safe enough to gradually communicate more.
- 4Celebrate small progress.Acknowledging any small steps, without making a big deal of them, helps build confidence over time.
- 5Seek professional support.Speech and language therapists and psychologists have specific approaches that can help children overcome selective mutism.
Evidence
References
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- HSE: Selective mutism ↗
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Health education, not individual medical advice
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BarnMD Bottom Line
Selective mutism responds well to patient, structured support, and most children make significant progress with the right approach.
Selective mutism is driven by anxiety, not defiance or shyness — understanding this helps adults respond in ways that actually help.